Marriage is a never ending class. The true definition of marriage is ‘progressive learning’. You absolutely have no business having sex if you are not ready to take up the aftermath, that’s the new life you’ve brought into the world. The design of marriage isn’t about love and having sex whenever you find yourself having ‘funny feelings’ but it’s most importantly about the union and understanding between two souls.
No man has the right to have sex with a woman that isn’t ready to become the father of her kids. Mistakes happen when two souls happen to be in the same boat but sailing different directions. High presumed expectations lead to hurtful heartaches. Allowing him to have access to your body when he doesn’t have what it takes to be the father of your children is just a major flop! Just by the thought of it, disgusts me! And so it should you too, knowing the humiliation and the impact it might have on the lives of ‘our’ children.
Besides the ‘usual’ general sexual knowledge women have, every female in her teens and twenties should be enlightened about their potentiality of fertility so that they can have a clear understanding of their bodies. It’s already been underestimated, you’ll find a young teen who’s still engulfed in her innocence, already engaged in different sexual partners and has had multiple abortions. This is where parenting comes in. A lot parents are unable to decode because nobody taught them. They just started talking about sex ‘just the other day‘… Parents should stop shying away from the topic and start teaching their teens on sexuality and fertility.
A loving father can teach it better with the help of scripture references. If not, it’s quite obvious they will acquire a rebellious character in their teen life. Thorns and snares will always be in the way of the perverse. He/She who guards his/her soul will be far from them. Train up a child in the way they should grow, again, with the help of the scriptures so that when they grow up they will not depart from it.
Love making and sexual engagements are secondary but not the primary reason as to why God instituted marriage. They were the very least of the things in God’s mind. The world has redefined the meaning of marriage and magnified divorce as the norm. Mathew 19:3-8 clearly states that God never allowed divorce ‘what God has put together, no man can put asunder’. God’s people perish due to lack of knowledge. The highest happiness on earth is the happiness of marriage. It’s not a union without God in between!
The foundation of love, is only built on what you are willing to put into it And when you have both conscious man and woman standing side by side, now that’s truly a blessing.